I’m going to type this as a reminder to mostly myself, I have a hard time living this life. I sometimes don’t even want to be around any longer. Depression is a crazy thing that effects me massively. I’m a good person, I help so many people live brighter full lives. But I don’t know how to make happiness my own. I sometimes get inspired to write things, as I really have no one to talk to about real feelings and life in general. Anyway here ya go:

 

1. Happiness is where you are now, or nowhere at all

It’s not a new relationship, it’s not a new job, its not a completed goal, and it’s not a new item that you bought. Until I give up on that idea that happiness is somewhere else, It’ll never be where I am

 

2. Quitting is for winners

Knowing, when to quit, change direction, leave a toxic situation, demand more from life, giving up on something or someone that isn’t or doesn’t want to work with you and moving on, is a very important skill to have. Don’t quit because its hard, quit because it’s miserable and you deserve better. This is something I struggle with daily.

 

3. If they really wanted to, they would

If you apply pressure they might do what you want them to do. If you take the pressure off, they will do what they would rather do. Let them go! Move on! find something better. I’m stuck in this so bad at the moment. Letting go for me seems like the hardest thing to do for me.

 

4. Taking no risk IS the biggest risk!

You have to risk failure to succeed, you have to risk rejection to be accepted, you have to risk heartbreak to love. If you’re avoiding risk, you’re risking missing out on life.

 

5. Call yourself out

I think the reason we keep making the same mistakes is that our ego prevents us from taking responsibility for our own Bullshit and our own mistakes.

 

6. Closure is a choice

Closure isn’t an apology, or justice or answers. If the situation made you feel awful, seeking closure by reopening it is just insanity. Closure isn’t something anyone can give you. Closure is moving on. Closure is our choice.

 

7. If you’re happy alone, you’ll be happier together

There is no kind of affection that can fill the void in a person who doesn’t love themself. If someone pushes someone away from them, that can be good to them, It’s their choice. There is no independence in dependency. Until we have a healthy relationship with ourselves we won’t make healthy decisions about someone else. I am also working through this as we speak.

 

8. It’s not your job to fix damaged people

Our responsibility to help someone will never outweigh their responsibility to help themselves. I have the problem of giving all of myself to others to try to make them happy, and in the process losing my own happiness. Mostly that attachment is an issue about myself. I am a giver, but it seems to hurt me more than help me.

 

why do I get these inspirations? and write this kind of thing, is it because I have no one to talk to? maybe. Is this about someone in particular? No, this is about me and what I need to get straight in my life before I can find what I and everyone else is truly searching for.

Happiness

It eludes me, it always has. I need something to change so badly. I feel I don’t have time or options left.

 

Deep thoughts with

Beecher